I dont think there is one scenario i havent went through. I have went over how to make sure this never happens again. I have blamed rats, items and so on. I know the rat room is safe. They cannot climb on anything that would hurt them and I know that they don't. Especially not Sendai. I feel so horrible for him suffering while I tried to figure out how to help him. He spent all his time in a corner staring at me and never really coming to me but I miss the hell out of that boy. We have been blessed most of our deaths we knew would happen. Most have happened at an age I was willing to accept their loss. It is funny how one death can set you back from your adapting skills that you did finally gain ground on. Sendai did just that. I am happy I had the necropsy done even though it threw a 100 more options for me to go over. I am so sad that I couldn't help him.
It is funny how even the skittish ones move into my heart, ones that will never show the love back. I have always said I was ok with them being that way if they are happy living here. He has shown me that it is true and not just words out of my mouth to deal with him hating me. I am so shocked that this happened. He was fine at night and gone the next day. I have a few on the "expected" list but that boy was not one of them.
I figured out how to grieve the oldies. He if forcing me to learn how to grieve the unexpected.
No one gets this like you guys so thank you for always being there. :hugs: