I'm just not ready yet UPDATE: she is gone

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gramma2jaakk

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I know Lucy is an old girl, but I'm not ready to let her go yet. We have had her for 1 1/2 years and the vet said she was already an older girl when we adopted her. Yesterday she was running around the room, playing with Sally and Josie. This morning she was fine, sleeping cuddled up in the hammock with them like they always are. And lately we've noticed that her face is getting more and more white as she ages. But tonight she is different.

She didn't want to wake up, be moved or anything when we were cleaning the cage. She was sleeping HARD. She did wake up, but stayed in her basket looking out at us. And she looks MUCH older.

I told Neal that this might be the end for her. We have been trying to prepare ourselves for this. After the cage was cleaned, Lucy crawled into the toilet box and went to sleep. After seeing that, I said I was going to sleep downstairs to be near her. Neal asked me what I was going to do and I said I was going to cuddle her all night, I didn't want her to pass on in the toilet.

I've decided if she makes it through the night then I will take her to the vet tomorrow and see if there is anything we can do for her. If it is old age, then so be it. But now, after cuddling with her for the last hour, she is having a little cough that isn't even a cough but more like a little gasp. Lucy has been lying still for me, and I've done the rat-phone thing. She does not sound congested, her heart sounds strong. She just isn't moving much, and sometimes when she does move she will leave her front legs curled under herself.

She just looks so pitiful. I would take her to the vet tonight but the emergency vet knows nothing about rats, hamsters, mice and such. I do have some medicine left over from when Lucy and Sally had a URI back in April, but I'm not even sure if giving her any would help.

So, now I'm crying and trying to mentally prepare myself for her no longer being with us anymore, and trying to figure out what to say to my grand-daughter about it if Lucy should die tonight. My grand-daughter loves all my rats so much, and this will be very hard for her also. So, I will let you all know what happens later, if Lucy goes to the vet or not in the morning. Neal says to just remember that we have given this little pet store girl a good, cumfy life, which was much better than being snake food. (sorry to the snake owners here. i only respect snakes but could not have one as a pet)

UPDATE: Lucy is now gone. She passed within minutes of my posting this here. The local time was 12:20am. She gave me a few shudders and a small squeak, yawned big and was gone. I'll miss her so much. She was Sally's best friend, and was Neal's rat.
 
She's not in distress so there's no reason for an emergency vet, just take her to your regular one soon as you can to find out if anything can be done. But if she was ok yesterday then I wouldn't start any meds without an obvious problem to treat. You're doing everything best you can for her I think. For your sake more than hers I think you should keep her close as you can tonight, there's always more comfort for us in being with them if they pass (and comfort for your granddaughter if she does in knowing you were holding her). Tomorrow you can call the vet - sometimes a deep chest infection won't be audible but very curable. I wish you & Lucy the best.
 
I'm so sorry...

For me, most of my rats die at home with me... I take it as a wonderful gift if I can be there for their passing into the next journey.
 
That little gasp is just the beginning of the body shutting down, it sounds very much like many of my wee one's passings. I too am honored to be allowed to experience it with them. She obviously wanted to be with you when her time was coming.

I am sorry hun. :(

((hugs))
 
Thank you, everyone. I buried her in the backyard, so I guess that is where my little pet cemetary is going to be, next to the gate in the fence.

I waited to tell my grand-daughter until after she got home from bible school. I picked her up from the church and went to Walmart to get a few things for a headstone, and Ashlyn started asking what the things were for. Since we had a few other stops to make, and I really didn't want her or myself to start crying in public, I told her we would wait until we got home before I would tell her what the things were for.

When I told her about Lucy, her face crumbled and she began sobbing. She loves my ratty girls as much as Neal and I do. Ashlyn was asking why Lucy had to die, and I explained that Lucy was old and her spirit is in heaven with other members of our family who she knows have passed on already, but her body is in the backyard and we can visit her anytime we want to, and the stuff in the bags was to make a headstone for Lucy, and she was going to help me make it.

She is still talking about how much she misses Lucy (Ashlyn is not quite 6 yrs old yet). When she went to the mailbox with me yesterday afternoon, she found some wild daisies in the front yard and asked if she could pick them to put on Lucy's grave. Ashlyn also keeps asking to see the headstone we made. I gave her a picture of Lucy to take back home with her next month.

Anyway, thank you again for the expressions of comfort for me. I really know that you here know how I am feeling. And Neal has already mentioned that he will want to have his own rat again, but he wants to wait for a bit. He loves all the girls but wants his own. He said it just seems so weird to go to the cage and not see Lucy coming to the doors begging to get out and be held. This from a man who grew up hating rats, and was not very thrilled when I brought Sally home 1 1/2 years ago.

Anita
 
I'm so sorry, expected as the loss was the grief gets is still on you like dust and chokes you up at unexpected times.
Lucy was a well-loved girl who lived a good and total life. Ashlyn has definitely had love & respect & compassion instilled in her, and it took wonderfully. I know you're proud as heck or her, I'm seeing part of why. I'm so sorry to her, and to you and your hubby. Lucy of course is fine and her eternal spirit much happier for the good you gave her and instilled in her. Tell Ashlyn she was one of the lucky ones to have you Neil & Ashlyn loving and caring for her.

Play this for you & Neal http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html
And this for Ashley http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ceNu4wL2Xro

And know other hearts have recognized your girl here and send heart bouquets.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. It must be a help to have your little granddaughter to mourn with the two of you.

You gave her a wonderful life full of love, and it was fortunate at least that you were able to be with her when she died.
 

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