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Reedflower

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I had to put down one of my rats on Thursday, and as hard as it has been for me, I'm more worried about the other rat.

The rat I had to put down's name is Ash, and his brother is Jet. Jet has always been very anxious. It's been 2 1/2 years and he's still not 100% comfortable being handled. As Ash's conditioned worsened so did Jet's. He started losing weight rapidly. They became inseparable, and Jet actually bit me a couple of times when he thought I was going to hurt Ash.

On the first day after Ash's passing, Jet sat there on the highest ledge of his cage for hours. At some point I think it hit him that Ash wasn't coming back, and he closed himself inside his house. Literally. He started overturning his bowl and using it to block the entrance to his house. That night when I went to feed him he ignored me. When I tapped him on the shoulder he finally lifted his head, but he wasn't interested in food at all. He eventually ate the treat hours later but hasn't touched any of the other food.

Today I fed him again and he didn't want to acknowledge me at all. I sat there with him for a couple of minutes, petting and talking to him, but he didn't move a muscle. I gave up and went back to my room and after a while I heard him moving around.

It feels like he's completely closed himself off to me. He has barely eaten or drank anything, every time I walk by he goes back into his house, and I've tried letting him free range but he just doesn't want to. I know it's only been a couple of days and maybe things will get better with time, but knowing him I don't think they will. It feels like losing two rats at once. Please, if there's anything I can do to make things easier for him, I'd do it in a heartbeat. I'm just don't know what to do for him.
 
Are you able to get a friend or two for him? When they're that lonely, they usually accept new friends right away. A pair of young rats should be fairly easy to introduce.
 
victoria said:
Are you able to get a friend or two for him? When they're that lonely, they usually accept new friends right away. A pair of young rats should be fairly easy to introduce.

I wish I could, I really do. I knew he would react this way so I've been trying to convince my mom to let me get another rat for over a year now, but I wasn't successful. At this point I think getting another rat would just feel like trying to fill a void anyway.
 
Perhaps you could foster some friends for him? And once Jet's time has come you could give the fosters back to a rescue or shelter?
Filling a void is exactly what you need to do for Jet.
 
I agree, the sooner you get him a buddy is best. I've been through that numerous times. I hope your mom understands that too. Good luck!
 
I read this and it broke my heart. Poor Jet. He NEEDS a rat friend to help him grieve. This is just so unfortunate.
 
I agree with everyone else. I did the same thing for my elderly cat, Bonnie. I didn't really want to get any more cats (because of my rats) but I watched her closely after I had to put down her brother Bart, and she REALLY missed him. So I ended up with two kittens...

Jet is really sad and missing his brother. I would take him out and give him lots of extra attention. Keep him out of his cage and with you as much as you can. You let him out to free range, but he needs comfort - contact, touching, snuggling, etc. so have him with you, not just 'allowed' to be out. He might be standoff-ish initially, but hopefully he will come around and really look forward to being with you.
 
I tried talking to my mom again but she's not budging. Fostering a rat has potential though, does anyone know where I can find something like that in Ontario? The local shelters rarely have rats.
 
He will die unless you rehome him to someone with rats to befriend him, or you get him friends.
Hopefully someone on here in your area will be able to help.
 
Do you know what his brother died of? Could Jet be declining because he's sick as well? At that age, grief and illness can look pretty similar. Can you take any pics or video of him? Are you willing to rehome him?
 
lilspaz68 said:
Do you know what his brother died of? Could Jet be declining because he's sick as well? At that age, grief and illness can look pretty similar. Can you take any pics or video of him? Are you willing to rehome him?

His brother had a very large tumor; easily 3 or 4 times his size. He had reached a point where he couldn't even drag himself halfway across the cage to get water, so we decided it was best to put him down. I'll take a video of him later today. Rehoming him is a last resort.
 
lilspaz68 said:
Good. :thumbup:

Have you thought of taking him to the vet just for an exam to make sure he's okay?

The only local vet that treats rats charges $100+ for a checkup. That's a lot of money to me and it's hard to warrant paying that much unless I think it'll really make a difference.
 
Reedflower said:
lilspaz68 said:
Good. :thumbup:

Have you thought of taking him to the vet just for an exam to make sure he's okay?

The only local vet that treats rats charges $100+ for a checkup. That's a lot of money to me and it's hard to warrant paying that much unless I think it'll really make a difference.

Where in the GTA are you? I am in Toronto.
 
lilspaz68 said:
I think Alex posted about a rat vet she deals with who is reasonable. Alex lives in King City.

Did you get that video?

How badly do you need the video? I'm sorry, this week has been painfully busy and the weekend will be even more so. Monday would be the earliest I could really sit down with him to do it.

What ended up happening with that member in the GTA who might be able to help? Could someone refer me to them?
 
Alex is the member in the GTA I think you're thinking of, you can search them in the member's list and contact them via their profile.
 

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